How to Speak Man offers a biblical blueprint for effective communication that empowers men to truly express their emotions, vulnerability, and aspirations, and helps women to implement the respect languages that help men be vulnerable in a healthy way.
Men don’t lack feelings. They lack a safe place to express them. In a culture obsessed with “high-value men” and “alpha status,” men often let their emotions go unprocessed. What looks like drive is desperation, leading to workaholism, infidelity, and addiction.
In How to Speak Man, Pastor Jerome Gay writes to men who are in a romantic relationship, or want to be, as well as to women who want to encourage their partner to be vulnerable. At the heart of the book is a practical framework that explains how men process emotions and what it looks like to open up without feeling weak. How to Speak Man helps men:
This straightforward call to godliness and true masculinity challenges men to stop performing and start healing—because men don’t need to “man up” to be the men God created them to be. They need the courage to be known, the strength to be vulnerable, and the security of knowing who they are in Christ.
Pastor Jerome Gay Jr. is the founding pastor of Vision Church in the inner city of Raleigh, North Carolina. He is the author of several books, including Church Hurt, Talking to Your Children About Race, The Whitewashing of Christianity, and Renewal. Pastor Jerome and his wife, Crystal, have two children.
